you know when u have to misgender a friend in front of ur parents and you can like physically taste copper
people who are saying “then don’t misgender them!!” are missing the sad reality of this post. they don’t realize that 99% of the time, when someone must misgender their friend to others, it is because the friend (aka the misgendered friend) has explicitly asked them to do so. especially to parents because people talk, word gets around. if they don’t want anyone to know, then you have to respect that.
^^^^^
My blood grandma is totally chill with my transgender/asexual/bi friends (and she’s pretty religious)
but every time I speak to my mother or my other grandma I have to lie my ass off and the fucking bitter taste it leaves in my mouth makes me literally nearly puke every time. I wish I didn’t have to around them but they’re beyond bigoted and I don’t need any of my friends getting hurt because of them.
(Source: ratcoded)